Leaving school can bring unexpected grief. Parents and kids often find themselves mourning more than an institution — they’re letting go of schoolishness, the belief that grades define worth and that belonging comes from doing things “the right way.” This reflection explores the quiet ache of stepping outside the tribe of school, and how families move through loss toward new kinds of connection and growth.

When families first join Embark Center, the hardest shift is often letting go of 'doing school.' Deschooling gives kids and parents the space to rebuild trust in curiosity, move beyond measurement, and embrace self-directed learning.

One family shares how their 11-year-old regained joy, independence, and even started writing again after joining Embark. With gentle supports and growing separation confidence, mom describes learning to trust the self-directed process.